Felt this deeply! I think many of us are sitting with that same question: 'if I chose this life, why?'. There’s so much truth in your realization that the empathy you carry was shaped by that early loss. Sending you some strength for the weight of it all today.
I’ve come to believe that yes, we are fulfilling a sole contract. We chose our lessons before we incarnated. I didn’t believe that until recently, but, it’s the only thing that makes sense. Earth is our school. We learn what our sole needs….and then we graduate. Perhaps the next life, if you so choose to come back, is softer…easier…roles are reversed. Who knows. Empaths carry an awful lot. I’ve thought and thought and thought on this…because I also have no idea why I would have chosen this life, but, I’m going to graduate this time so I don’t have to do this lesson over. I get it. Thank you very much. I’ve also understood that you come to this life with 1000 veils and your job while here is to remove as many as you can. The more veils you remove, the more you remember your purpose and who you really are. And purpose….thats where the good stuff is. I’ve been working on it everyday for a year now. It’s slow, but, clarity does come. You’ve got this…one veil at a time….if you believe that.❤️
I often feel like this. You are not alone. I think we all feel like this at some point. We aren't designed to carry these loads all alone. Thank you for being vulnerable with us readers. 🖤🫶
A friend told me that once, too, said we choose our parents before birth. A ridiculous notion from one of her 'self help books' that made a profit giving lost people something wacky to believe so they don't have to go to therapy. Nothing happens for a reason, our suffering was never self-chosen. I love your writing, ty for sharing
I think a lot of things happen for a reason but I also think a lot do not. I say my pain made me softer but in reality it was me. Because I didnt want anyone else to endure the things I endured.
At the same time im not sure i would take any of it back because i like who I am becoming
"Ten spears go to battle,” he whispered, “and nine shatter. Did that war forge the one that remained? No, Amaram. All the war did was identify the spear that would not break.” -Brandon Sanderson
Feeling deeply in this broken world is so hard and a truly difficult thing to endure.. especially in a world full of people who can't even love themselves
You ask the questions so many people carry quietly, and you do it without pretending there are neat answers. What comes through most strongly isn’t anger. it’s empathy, the kind that comes from having felt too much and still choosing to care. That’s a heavy gift to carry, and you name it with courage. Thank you for trusting readers with something this real; it will make people feel far less alone.
Thank you for this. I never know how these pieces will land, so hearing that you felt seen — and that it helped you feel less alone — really stays with me. I appreciate you taking the time to read and reflect so thoughtfully.
I am struck by this post. Because I felt like I was the one asking the questions. Brilliantly written I went from reader to being completely in the moment with you.
Of course you did. Things are hard, but that’s why we chose it. I went through a lot growing up and I’m still going through a lot now. Intellectually, I understand why I chose this but emotionally I’m still in the mix.
I chose this life because I believed I would come out of the fear and rejection better than I ever would have. I need you to have hope that you’ll rise out of it too if you don’t already.
Your words hit like truth most people avoid. Some souls aren’t punished – they’re forged. Not because they “chose” pain, but because what survived the pain became impossible to fake. Your empathy isn’t a flaw; it’s evidence of someone who loved deeply, lost deeply, and still shows up. That’s rare. Maybe the question isn’t 'why' life shaped you this way, but 'what you’re meant to shape with it now'.
I explore similar wounds-and-wisdom threads in my Substack — your reflection echoed home.
I don’t know if I chose any of it, but I do know the parts that survived shaped me more honestly than anything else. I’ll take a look at your Substack too; sounds like we’re wandering similar roads.
Felt this deeply! I think many of us are sitting with that same question: 'if I chose this life, why?'. There’s so much truth in your realization that the empathy you carry was shaped by that early loss. Sending you some strength for the weight of it all today.
Thank you so much and for reading it so closely …
I’ve come to believe that yes, we are fulfilling a sole contract. We chose our lessons before we incarnated. I didn’t believe that until recently, but, it’s the only thing that makes sense. Earth is our school. We learn what our sole needs….and then we graduate. Perhaps the next life, if you so choose to come back, is softer…easier…roles are reversed. Who knows. Empaths carry an awful lot. I’ve thought and thought and thought on this…because I also have no idea why I would have chosen this life, but, I’m going to graduate this time so I don’t have to do this lesson over. I get it. Thank you very much. I’ve also understood that you come to this life with 1000 veils and your job while here is to remove as many as you can. The more veils you remove, the more you remember your purpose and who you really are. And purpose….thats where the good stuff is. I’ve been working on it everyday for a year now. It’s slow, but, clarity does come. You’ve got this…one veil at a time….if you believe that.❤️
I often feel like this. You are not alone. I think we all feel like this at some point. We aren't designed to carry these loads all alone. Thank you for being vulnerable with us readers. 🖤🫶
A friend told me that once, too, said we choose our parents before birth. A ridiculous notion from one of her 'self help books' that made a profit giving lost people something wacky to believe so they don't have to go to therapy. Nothing happens for a reason, our suffering was never self-chosen. I love your writing, ty for sharing
I think a lot of things happen for a reason but I also think a lot do not. I say my pain made me softer but in reality it was me. Because I didnt want anyone else to endure the things I endured.
At the same time im not sure i would take any of it back because i like who I am becoming
"Ten spears go to battle,” he whispered, “and nine shatter. Did that war forge the one that remained? No, Amaram. All the war did was identify the spear that would not break.” -Brandon Sanderson
Feeling deeply in this broken world is so hard and a truly difficult thing to endure.. especially in a world full of people who can't even love themselves
I love this point of view.
You ask the questions so many people carry quietly, and you do it without pretending there are neat answers. What comes through most strongly isn’t anger. it’s empathy, the kind that comes from having felt too much and still choosing to care. That’s a heavy gift to carry, and you name it with courage. Thank you for trusting readers with something this real; it will make people feel far less alone.
Thank you for this. I never know how these pieces will land, so hearing that you felt seen — and that it helped you feel less alone — really stays with me. I appreciate you taking the time to read and reflect so thoughtfully.
I am struck by this post. Because I felt like I was the one asking the questions. Brilliantly written I went from reader to being completely in the moment with you.
Thank you — I’m really glad it landed the way it did. “Invited into the choice” is exactly what I hoped for.
Mission Accomplished
Of course you did. Things are hard, but that’s why we chose it. I went through a lot growing up and I’m still going through a lot now. Intellectually, I understand why I chose this but emotionally I’m still in the mix.
I chose this life because I believed I would come out of the fear and rejection better than I ever would have. I need you to have hope that you’ll rise out of it too if you don’t already.
Thank you for sharing this. I really appreciate your honesty.
Well written
Thank you so much for reading 💜❤️💙
Beautiful! You write so powerfully. Your words make me feel it all so much, squeezing my soul and taking my breath away.
Thank you.
I never know how these pieces will hit someone else, so hearing that it moved you..that you felt it…means everything.
Your words hit like truth most people avoid. Some souls aren’t punished – they’re forged. Not because they “chose” pain, but because what survived the pain became impossible to fake. Your empathy isn’t a flaw; it’s evidence of someone who loved deeply, lost deeply, and still shows up. That’s rare. Maybe the question isn’t 'why' life shaped you this way, but 'what you’re meant to shape with it now'.
I explore similar wounds-and-wisdom threads in my Substack — your reflection echoed home.
This means a lot — thank you.
I don’t know if I chose any of it, but I do know the parts that survived shaped me more honestly than anything else. I’ll take a look at your Substack too; sounds like we’re wandering similar roads.
This made me cry.
Virtual hug and tissue....
Raw and Deeply Touching!!!
Ty so much for talking the time to read!! So appreciated
wow amazing
Ty so much for reading!!
this is beautiful and so relatable
Ty so much for reading!!! 🩷💛🤍💙💜💚❤️
Raw and so deeply touching it hurt me.
Thank you so much for reading!!!💜💚❤️💛🤍